A healthy you

If you try to build intimacy with another person before you have gotten whole on your own, all your relationships become an attempt to complete yourself. 

You are setting yourself up for heartache.  Get yourself healthy before you get yourself married.

If you want a better relationship, it begins with you. Your relationships can only be as healthy as you are.

We must realize...

1. God loved us first. 

John 3:16  For God so loved the world that He gave His only Son that whoever believes in Him will not perish but have everlasting life.   

Ephesians 3:14-19  (MSG)

My response is to get down on my knees before the Father, this magnificent Father who parcels out all heaven and earth. 

I ask him to strengthen you by his Spirit—not a brute strength but a glorious inner strength—that Christ will live in you as you open the door and invite him in.

And I ask him that with both feet planted firmly on love, you’ll be able to take in with all followers of Jesus the extravagant dimensions of Christ’s love. 

Reach out and experience the breadth! Test its length! Plumb the depths! Rise to the heights! Live full lives, full in the fullness of God.

2. Learn to be authentic with God and yourself. 

Your most important conversation is the conversation that you have with you. 

Resist the need to please others instead of God to get their acceptance.  

3. Sacrificial love for others. 

This is the love that you offer to others.  Walk the extra mile  (Matthew 5:38). Go beyond what is required of you. 

Ephesians 4:1-3 (MSG)

4 1-3 In light of all this, here’s what I want you to do. While I’m locked up here, a prisoner for the Master, I want you to get out there and walk—better yet, run!—on the road God called you to travel.

I don’t want any of you sitting around on your hands. I don’t want anyone strolling off, down some path that goes nowhere. 

And mark that you do this with humility and discipline—not in fits and starts, but steadily, pouring yourselves out for each other in acts of love, alert at noticing differences and quick at mending fences. 

Les Parrott 

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