More than a feeling!

I. Love is more than a feeling. 

It is a decision.  We must love the haters because that shows you what love is.  

You lose that loving feeling when you quit acting in loving ways.  

Husband:

1.  She wants open, honest, consistent communication.   

2.  She wants to be protected.   Wipe away her tears not create them.  

Nehemiah 4:14  (NLT)

...“Don’t be afraid of the enemy! Remember the Lord, who is great and glorious, and fight for your brothers, your sons, your daughters, your wives, and your homes!”

3. She needs quality and quantity time. 

4. She wants to be pursued.  What you did to get her. Do to keep her.  

Wife:

1. He desperately needs your respect. 

Honor him as if he is already the man you want him to be.  We respond better to honor than anger.  

2. He wants you to initiate sex, and be receptive when he does. 

1 Corinthians 7:3-5 (NLT)

3 The husband should fulfill his wife’s sexual needs, and the wife should fulfill her husband’s needs. 

4 The wife gives authority over her body to her husband, and the husband gives authority over his body to his wife.

5 Do not deprive each other of sexual relations, unless you both agree to refrain from sexual intimacy for a limited time so you can give yourselves more completely to prayer. Afterward, you should come together again so that Satan won’t be able to tempt you because of your lack of self-control.

3. He wants you to know that you're his best friend.      

4. He wants to be appreciated.  

II. Love is a commitment. 

III.  Love is not blind.  

Blind love is broken love.  

Genesis 3:6 (NLT)

6 The woman was convinced. She saw that the tree was beautiful and its fruit looked delicious, and she wanted the wisdom it would give her. So she took some of the fruit and ate it. Then she gave some to her husband, who was with her, and he ate it, too.

Temptation is Satan asking for permission.  

James 1:16-17 (NLT)

16 So don’t be misled, my dear brothers and sisters. 

17 Whatever is good and perfect is a gift coming down to us from God our Father, who created all the lights in the heavens.[a] He never changes or casts a shifting shadow.

If it is not from God, it's not good.  If it's not good for me, why do I allow it around?  

The lure of temptation is to make something evil to appear to be good.  

Ephesians 5:18 n (NLT)

18 Don’t be drunk with wine, because that will ruin your life. Instead, be filled with the Holy Spirit,

We're not just talking about drinking.  If you're not filled with the Spirit, you're going to be filled with something.

Jeremy Foster, Hope City Church