People out of reach?

How to have challenging conversations with challenging people?  

The biggest question is not if we argue, but how we argue.  Healthy arguments are for resolution.  Unhealthy arguments are to win.   

Never call names.  

Never raise voice.  

Never get historical.  

Never say always.  

The biggest communication barrier is the assumption that communication has ever taken place.  

Treat people the way that you’d like for them to respond.  

Seek first to understand not to be understood.  

Always treat people with respect.  

Be forgiving.  

Let others reap the consequences of their decisions, or they’ll never change.  

Have compassion by allowing their pain to enter your heart.   Don’t think in terms of me but we.  

You don’t measure your maturity by how much you know, but how much you love.  

Humility is a kingdom principle which all blessings flow.  It is a willingness to admit that you don’t know everything.  Humility reveals itself by listening to others.  

When you argue with what God says that is called pride.  When I agree with what God says that is called humility.  Humility is making decisions with other people in mind.  

Pride gets us out of step with God. 

Don’t let your feelings make your decisions for you.  

Examine yourself every day for pride. 

We determine when God can bless us. 

Idolatry is whatever becomes the center of our life.  

Witchcraft is the sin of trying to control someone else.  

Pride is getting upset when your agenda is not working out.  

We want to change situations.  God wants to change us.  

Religion always begins with bad news.  Relationship says I’ve been where you’ve been.   Religion closes the door.  They may smell like cigarettes and alcohol, but that's better than the stench of pride.  What is in your life that is dead or dying?  

The first step of fixing something is identifying that it’s  there.   

Add valve to other’s lives.  Don’t start by preaching sin.  Ask how can I help you?  Then, you will gain the privilege of influencing them.  

Try to create community with people.  

Remember a leader doesn’t have to do everything.  

Use encouragement.  

Don’t point out flaws and failures.  

Don’t do what you do to get recognition.  

The culture doesn’t need to see you, but to see Jesus in you.  

You’re going to live a life that demands an explanation or not?

Excerpts taken from Church of the Highlands notes.