How to win an argument

4 Causes of Conflict 

1.  Poor communication.  (Psalm 141:3)

2.  Unfulfilled expectations.  (James 4:1-2)

3.  Despising differences.  (Mark 3:25)

4.  The sin nature.  (Romans 3:23)

4 Ways to deal with conflict

1. My way.

2. Your way.

3. Half way.

4. God's way.  

I cannot change my circumstances until I let God change me.  

In conflict resolution, never...

1. Put it off.

2. Call names.

3. Raise your voice. 

4. Get historical. 

5. Say never or always.

6. Threaten.

  

Go to God first.  He can change the circumstances around you.  You have a choice. 

Conflict cannot continue without my participation.  

1.  I will act and not react.  (Ephesians 4:26-27)

2.  I will focus on the good things in you.  Philippians 4:8)

3.  I will apply God's grace to you.  (Romans 12:19-21)

4.  I will remember God's grace to me.  (1 John 4:8-11)

Chris Hodges, Church of the Highlands