How to heal a toxic relationship

God can heal toxicity.   

Here's what He did in the Bible.  

Exodus 15:23-26 (NLT)

23 When they came to the oasis of Marah, the water was too bitter to drink. So they called the place Marah (which means “bitter”).

24 Then the people complained and turned against Moses. “What are we going to drink?” they demanded. 

25 So Moses cried out to the Lord for help, and the Lord showed him a piece of wood. Moses threw it into the water, and this made the water good to drink.

It was there at Marah that the Lord set before them the following decree as a standard to test their faithfulness to him. 

26 He said, “If you will listen carefully to the voice of the Lord your God and do what is right in his sight, obeying his commands and keeping all his decrees, then I will not make you suffer any of the diseases I sent on the Egyptians; for I am the Lord who heals you.”

Honor heals toxicity.   

We must look past the person to what the person represents.  They are a person Jesus died for.  

1 Peter 3:7 (NLT)

7 In the same way, you husbands must give honor to your wives. Treat your wife with understanding as you live together. She may be weaker than you are, but she is your equal partner in God’s gift of new life. Treat her as you should so your prayers will not be hindered.  

Trust heals toxicity.  

Distrust comes from what I expect and what the other person delivers.   We judge ourselves by our intentions and others by their actions.  We must give others the benefit of the doubt.  

Hope is given, but trust must be built.  We must create an environment of trust by our actions.  

Loyalty heals toxicity.   

God is loyal.  He is full of  compassion, grace, and patience.  We must be like Him.  

Exodus 34:6-7 (NLT)

⁶ The Lord passed in front of Moses, calling out,

“Yahweh!The Lord!
    The God of compassion and mercy!
I am slow to anger
    and filled with unfailing love and faithfulness.
⁷ I lavish unfailing love to a thousand generations.^[b]
    I forgive iniquity, rebellion, and sin.
But I do not excuse the guilty.
    I lay the sins of the parents upon their children and grandchildren;
the entire family is affected—

    even children in the third and fourth generations.”